Monday, August 12, 2019

Prison...

Prison are meant to keep those who are dangerous and have hurt others from hurting again.  Those who have stole from stealing again, those who have killed from killing again.  I know several who have been in prison, or who have a husband, wife, adult child, mother, or father in prison.  I have visited several  prisoners, written them letters, prayed for them.  I have read of those who have committed crimes that I think should never get out of prison.  I  thank God my children have never done anything to land them in prison.  I have never experienced that heartbreak and hope I never do.  

 Unforgiveness is a big prison I understand this prison, I have been in it before.  I have been a slave to someone who has hurt me deeply.  What they did would runs over and over in my mind.  So much so I would get frustrated easily because I could not think clearly.  It ate at my feeling till all that was left was hate and I wished I never had to see them again.    So I can tell you for sure without Christ love for me I would still be in that prison.

Someone said to me several weeks ago,  forgiving someone would be easier if they could just forget what they did.  I had to agree, which means,  we have to replace what they did with what Christ did for us. God did not ask us to forget, He ask us to forgive.  (copied from  Bill (cycleguy post). ).It has to become the focus of our life, the first thing we think about when we wake up and the last thing we think about before we sleep.  He has to become our life.  When He is our life all else becomes fainter, not forgotten but it becomes a scar not a wound.  We can touch the scar, show it to others, talk about it, praise the Lord for the scar.  As with all scars we can remember how we got it but it does not hurt anymore.  At that moment you are no longer a slave, no long in prison.  Free at last, free at last. 

“Whenever there’s an injury to a relationship, a hurt, a broken heart, or even a broken thing, and you are willing to forgive, you are saying, “I got this. I’m going to pick up the bill for this.” This is, of course, precisely what God has done for us.”
Brant Hansen,


15 comments:

  1. First, I love this song. We sing it in our worship. Second, forgiveness (or lack of it) is a prison where we are chained. We are not asked forget. We are asked to forgive. Jesus knew the prison it would put us in. The refusal to forgive someone makes us their slave.

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    1. Good point Bill about we were not ask to forget. I am going to add that little gem to my post. Thank you brother.

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  2. Being unforgiving is like sentencing ourselves to life in prison, that's for sure, Betty. May we all be quick to forgive others and ask God's help to forget.
    Blessings!

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    1. Exactly Martha, we sentenced our self, no judge does it, we do it when we will not forgive. Great point. I stopped asking to forget because it was clear to me that God wanted to use my memories of pain to help other. I can say with strong conviction, I know He can release you from your pain if you will obey Him. It's a process so often for some because of deep wounds. I tell them to start little, ask God to show you something, even one good memory to hang onto. With my Dad, I had one memory of him brushing my hair when I was a little girl. He told me he was making my hair longer by bushing it. One memory...only time I ever remember a sweet time. But that one memory was one of the stepping stones to healing. The first stone was seeing myself just a big of sinner as my Dad, it did not take one more drop of blood to cover Dad's sin then it did mine. Little steps finally released me from the serving hurtful memories. God is good all the time.

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  3. How I love this song!!!! Actually, a man in prison shared it with me...I sing loudly and passionately! We can never hear enough about forgiveness. How I world would change if it was applied. I'm going to listen (and sing) now....can you hear me? LOL..

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    1. Zach Williams came out and sang this at a Casting Crowns Concert I went to in Charlotte...The split second the music started, the tears started flowing. It was an awesome moment in time!

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    2. I can hear sister, I can hear you. This song was written for you after all you have been through. I can tell by the post you write God is bringing you out of slavery to Joe. How I wish we could talk face to face sometime. You always make the tears flow for me just because I know a little of what you have been through. How blessed are the people who you are around.

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  4. That is a great song - anything Zach Williams sings or writes is amazing! I'm sure you have heard the quote that unforgiveness is like swallowing poison and expecting the other person to die. I surely can relate to deep hurt and having a hard time with forgiveness. It is SO hard because our brains are not wired to forget, they are made to remember. It takes such a conscious effort to forget something. Although my forgetfulness certainly improves the older I get! LOL!! Thank you for another blessed, edifying post, sweet sister. Love and appreciate you!

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    1. Cheryl, maybe we can count forgetfulness as one of the perks in getting older. I am a determined women and though I fail at my life verse at times, God knows how badly my hearts wants to only be focus on Him. He is so good to send others and blog post and great books to help me. Your post always show how much work you put into them, so full of truth and the love of Christ. It shows you are a determined women that knows how weak you are and how strong He is. It's only when we switch our focus the enemy can trip us up. We have a move coming up in the next year and I have been focusing on it to the point I get frustrated to easily with my husband every time he throws me a new option out. My Martha personality steps up and I just want it done NOW, thank God for a husband who knows me well and gives me space to vent and then calm down so I can even hear the Holy Spirit. God is good, all the time.

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  5. Amazing song same as Mahatma Gandhi Quote: The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong. Shine Infinite

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  6. Thank you Shine for commenting on my post. I really like Gandi quote. It takes courage to forgive, courage to let it go, give grace to the offenders. But I would rather give grace instead of being in bondage to them. My father was abusive to all three of us children when we were young. Myself and one brother have forgiven but one is still in bondage to a man whose body lays in the grave. He is hard to be around because he is so narrow minded and easily offended. He say, sometimes he just wants to take a gun and kill himself because of the pain in his mind. It's sad and hurt everyone in the family.

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  7. Forgiveness must be that great and awesome, because we can never do it enough not to do it again.

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  8. Until we are released from the power of unforgiveness we cannot understand the freedom. I have even had someone tell me, it's my right to be angry at them after all these years for doing me wrong. The problem was, that person was long gone and did not even know she was still angry. So, I ask her, who is it benefitting? and who is it hurting? Our hearts are so easily led astray. You are right unforgivenss will come again but as our pastor use to say, you cannot keep the birds from flying over you but you don't have to let them make a nest.

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  9. Yes, forgiveness will release the hurt in you as well, and even if they never know they are forgiven, at least you will know you did. God will take care of any vengeance that he deems necessary.

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