Unforgiveness is a big prison. I understand this prison, I have been in it before. I have been a slave to someone who has hurt me deeply. What they did would runs over and over in my mind. So much so I would get frustrated easily because I could not think clearly. It ate at my feeling till all that was left was hate and I wished I never had to see them again. So I can tell you for sure without Christ love for me I would still be in that prison.
Someone said to me several weeks ago, forgiving someone would be easier if they could just forget what they did. I had to agree, which means, we have to replace what they did with what Christ did for us. God did not ask us to forget, He ask us to forgive. (copied from Bill (cycleguy post). ).It has to become the focus of our life, the first thing we think about when we wake up and the last thing we think about before we sleep. He has to become our life. When He is our life all else becomes fainter, not forgotten but it becomes a scar not a wound. We can touch the scar, show it to others, talk about it, praise the Lord for the scar. As with all scars we can remember how we got it but it does not hurt anymore. At that moment you are no longer a slave, no long in prison. Free at last, free at last.
“Whenever there’s an injury to a relationship, a hurt, a broken heart, or even a broken thing, and you are willing to forgive, you are saying, “I got this. I’m going to pick up the bill for this.” This is, of course, precisely what God has done for us.”