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Monday, August 13, 2018

Two G's, Gina and Grief

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Gina and family 
Blogging has become a source of joy and frustration when an idea is in my head but cannot put it all together for whatever reason.

Today I am experiencing pure joy because at last the idea took on shape as I read my friend Gina post.
 I met Gina and family in 1991 in Bolivia, South America.  We served with her family at the New Tribes boarding school as dorm parents. She and my daughter hit it off right away as they lived life in the high school girls dorm.  These are the things I remember about her.

A reader...
A loyal friend...
One who studies people...
Thinks deeply...
Hurt deeply...
Never drew attention to herself...
A great writer ...

Gina graduated the same year our Tara did, came back to the states, went to nursing school. 
She and her husband, now have four children, a full plate.  But life happens and it draws Gina into writing not only about past life but the today. Her father died about six months ago and her raw, honest, deep pondering thoughts made their way from her heart to her blog. I have read several books and blogs on grief but this women words have caused me to think outside myself about dying and death.

It's been two years this past April since my Mother died and the grief has taken on different roles.  So much of Gina's insight has put words to my heart feelings.  In her July 26 post titled, Slow and Steady she made a statement, only 6 words about grieving that lit up my heart.

God is not in a hurry.....

He also is not afraid of disappointing us.  
When I feel disappointed by God, it’s because at that moment there’s something I’m longing for more than him, whether it be healing, employment, a child, a wife. As good as healing, employment, children, and marriage might be, none of them will come close to satisfying me as much as God himself.
Psalm 34:10, “The young lions suffer want and hunger; but those who seek the Lord lack no good thing.”

Wait a minute God, what is the "good thing".  It does not feel good to lose a love one.  Paul helps us have the proper view of what that good thing is in Philippians 3:8  , I count everything as loss because of the surpassing worth of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord. 

Knowing Him is the greater good, not just knowing about Him but actually knowing Him.  He is the only all-satisfying good, the greater good.  Those we have loss are not coming back to us but here is the good in our loss.  If we know Christ we will see them again but even deeper than that we will see Him.  Some cannot get past losing someone, they become stunted in their growth, sometimes become a recluse, their life defined by their loss instead of being defined by Him.   

Gina called it right, God does not get in a hurry.  He could have created everything in one day but He took seven, I mean He is God, not bound by time or pressure to hurry by anyone. 

Someone ask me the other day about how long has it taken me to grieve my mother. Oh, I said, I am still there. Just recently I found some pictures of my mother with our daughter lying beside her grandma, just a few days before she died. I had not seen them…it stunned me, literally, she looked like she was dead yet I know she was alive then. I transferred them to my phone so I could study them, that did not work. It caused such mixed emotions in me. I don’t remember her looking so bad. Then I look at the picture of her in her light blue coffin, in her red plaid blouse that she loved so much and she looks alive, well sort of, but not like death. They puffed her face up, put make up on her, combed her hair, put soft lights on her, she looked pretty but those nine days before she died, she looked dead.  But here is the greater good,  I will someday see my Mom  again and it will not be earthly lights that will transform her face but the light of Jesus. No more sickness, no more pain will cloud her face, just the glow of His love for her.  

Sunday, July 22, 2018

They traveled 8888 miles!

A few years ago we met up with this couple, Mark and Lauren Duc and son Leo.  As you can tell by the below picture they have added a sweet little girl, Talia.

We listened to their story of how God moved on their heart to become foreign missionary  also heard concern about their son, Leo health issues.

God was working to relieve their concerns.   Indonesea has some great doctors and hospitals.    Truthfully, they were putting their trust in the Lord for all their lives

It's never easy leaving family, friends, especially
Image may contain: 4 people, including Lauren Duc, people smiling, people sitting, child, outdoor and naturetaking a grand baby with health issues to live overseas but by the grace of God Duc's soon found themselves learning a new language, making friends in another culture.

On this side of the big pond as we call the ocean
were some Grandparents needing a grandchild
touch.  There is nothing any sweeter then to see
family step off that plane after countless hours
of flying and waiting in foreign airports.

I know you will enjoy the smiles and tears of this Grandma as she and Grandpa see where those precious grand children live everyday.  Their understanding will become richer as they watch God work through their children and grand children.  Ace and I have been a part of encouraging several parents and grand parents to take a risk and go visit their grown children and grandchildren and see them live a life in Christ outside their comfort zone.  They say our eyes affect our hearts, I think you will be able to hear and see that on the face of these grandparent.  Enjoy.


 If you get a chance, go visit a missionary in the country they serve in.  It does not have to be your children, could be a friend living in a foreign country, a missionary from your church.  Maybe you can't go due to time, health but maybe you can help pay a parent or Grandpa and Grandma way to go see their family.  There is nothing , absolutely nothing like seeing them get off the plane and receive the best hugs in the world.  Walking in their world leaves the message that you care beyond yourself about your family or friend.

When James Calvert went out as a missionary to the cannibals of the Fiji Islands, the ship captain tried to turn him back, saying, “You will lose your life and the lives of those with you if you go among such savages”. To that, Calvert replied, “We died before we came, he said.

I have permission to share this post from the Duc's.

Monday, July 2, 2018

Time has only one Lord--God

 Seeing the date of April 23rd as the date of my last post kind of shook me up.    Where in the world did the time go????  We are in Ky. at this time, house sitting for some friends as they spend a couple of weeks on a mission trip to Uganda.     Our sending church is close by and several of our supporters so we get to connect and take a little rest time.  All that to say I am glad God does not put me aside and forgets the time.                                                           “Time has only one Lord-God.”   a
We were especially blessed on our trip to Oregon lately to meet a couple that encouraged our hearts to just to sit with them and hear their stories.  They left for Japan in early 1950’s and served for over 60 years. They had an album of pics and testimonies of those who they had ministered to over the years.  Eleven churches planted on a peninsula that is 100 miles long in Japan. Please join us in praying for the Cliff & Fannie Leonard.  They are in their 90’s now and do have some health issues.
The Young's

It's always a joy to meet those preparing to go to different countries for their first term of service.  Some are going overseas and others are planning on serving here in the USA at one of the Ethnos360 training centers. No matter where, it's with the thought of, how is this all going to work? We met two of those couples on our recent  trip. The Young's are heading to PNG after having served at one of our Bible schools for a number of years.  

The Reeds's (sorry no picture) are heading to Ethnos360 Missionary Training Center in Missouri.  There are needs they will fill to be a part of the team equipping others to go.  Talking to them reminded us of ourselves as we heading out in the late 80's . Pray for them as they are in partnership development phase. 

One family we want to introduce you too.  We met them a number of times through the years.  Danny & Philippa Brooks, they serve in the Philippines and recently had finished one work and moved into another.  Shortly after the move, Danny was diagnosed with cancer and is now receiving chemo treatments in the states.  Please join us in praying for them . 

Ryan and  Laura returned from Papua with their daughter.  Praise the Lord that all the adoption paper work was accomplish before they returned to the USA. Pray for them as they trust the Lord for future ministry and location as to where to live.

Nate and Elizabeth serve in PNG.  Their location was the last tribe that Betty and I were able to visit before returning to the USA, which makes it a special place in our hearts.  The church that is located in this people group is growing.  Pray for this family as they update their churches and spend time with family.

Pray for Aimee as she prepares to return to PNG.  We’ve enjoyed meeting her and hearing about the work that she is involved in. Pray for the team there as they work on translation & literary programs.

Others that we met with on the last couple of trips are in the USA on home assignment.  Pray as they reconnect with their churches and family.  We’ve enjoyed hearing what the Lord is doing at their places of ministry.  We desire to be an encouragement and a help to them.

Thank you for praying and giving toward our ministry, serving to see the gospel go to the least reached language groups around the world.

Ace & Betty Draper
Ethnos360-Southwestern Regional Member Care

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Monday, April 23, 2018

Make It Count...

This is a re-post from 2015 that I felt needed to be put out there again.  I am still asking God to make my burdens count, help me to see His glory as I walked through a trial, give me peace and wisdom as I have to make decisions everyday that affect others. 

Lately I've had a burden that seems to put me in a downtrodden state because  my focus is the burden.  Needing a lift I turned  to a song by Gordon Mote.  I am going to miss His glory that surrounds this  burden if my perspective is self centered.   

One thing for sure, my burden is not going to go away over night, in fact there is no guarantee it will ever go away.   A friend sent me a great post yesterday containing three words that kept rattling around in my mind.  Powerful words that lifted my spirit as I reverted back to them in the middle of my burden.  "Make it count".

As I listen the to the words in the song, I begin to pray those three words combined with the title of the song.   God, make it count, this burden that I carry, make it count and please don't let me miss your glory in the midst of it.                             

  1. If you don’t see the greatness of God then all the things that money can buy become very exciting. If you can’t see the sun you will be impressed with a street light. If you’ve never felt thunder and lightning you’ll be impressed with fireworks. And if you turn your back on the greatness and majesty of God you’ll fall in love with a world of shadows and short-lived pleasures.
John Piper

Sunday, April 8, 2018

Tone it down....

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Do you think we should live bold for the Lord the way Peter and John did?

 My personality has been pretty bold all my life so when I got saved at 35 that boldness went into my journey with the Lord.  I talked to everyone about Him and it was mostly my religious friends who told me to "tone it down, I was going to offend".  A couple of them  were Sunday School teachers at different churches. 

Oh, I know it important to live right before others so hopefully they can tell I am different,  but while I am living right I want to let my light shine with the words that come out of my mouth.  God did not leave the task of telling others about Jesus to the rock and trees or animals, He left it to those of us who claim to be His. 

Boldness about Jesus is not red faced passion or impenetrable extroversion. Rather, it has to do with speaking--which is not so much about how we speak, but in what we say about Jesus, even when we presume our hearers won't be happy with it.

In Acts 4: the Jewish leaders were disturbed because this Jesus who they killed proclaimed to be the long awaited Messiah.   Peter and John boldly carried on with that truth,  Jesus was the long awaiting Messiah who  was crucified, died and resurrected and any one who believes that will  have the same blessing of being resurrected from the dead. Oh, that made those religious leaders furious. 

What made it worst  in the Jewish leaders eyes was the ones teaching this were fishermen, uneducated, not leaders in the Temple, common men and they were doing it boldly without fear.

Peter and John continued to heal people, preached the gospel and were arrested and escorted to stand trial before the same court that condemned Jesus, better known as the professionals of that day. 

The religious leaders fired one after another questions at Peter and John.  At one point, (Acts 4:11-12 Peter answered, "hear me loud and clear, Jesus is behind this work."  This Jesus is the stone that was rejected by you the builders, which has become the cornerstone . and there is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven given among men by which we must be saved.  

I love this short video clip  and re-watch it often because it gives me courage to be bold and clear about my Savior, Jesus Christ.

Anybody need a pair of sunglasses???

Friday, March 30, 2018

Silent Saturday


The word holiday comes from the Old English word hāligdæg (hālig "holy" + dæg "day"). The word originally referred only to special religious days. In modern use, it means any special day of rest or relaxation, as opposed to normal days away from work or school.

Passover was the religious holiday they were celebrating until the people saw Jesus as He carried the cross through the town.  It was not "special" or restful or relaxing to see the blood dripping in pools around His beaten body.  How could anyone rest or relax as they heard the sound of the nails being pounded into His hands and feet.  How could anyone eat as they watch and heard all the commotion that came from such an event.  Yet we kind of do that when we watch sport figures try to take the players down by slamming their bodies into them in football. Hey a hot dog and coke goes real good when a face gets bloody in a boxing match.  Not a whole lots has changed since Jesus hung on the cross.  Everyone was in town for the Passover so why not add a few Crucifixions to  the religions holiday.  

It's Friday and Sunday 's coming is the best message of hope ever preached.  So much hustle and bustle about a secular Easter, new clothes, shoes, candy, that the soberness of what took place on the cross and the tomb gets crowded out.    Most of the people left after Christ was taken down and buried in the tomb but I am so glad God did not. He had a valuable lesson to teach us with a silent Saturday .  Max Lucado can say it so much better than I can, so the below  is from him.  

Max Lucado says ,  Easter weekend discussions tend to skip Saturday. Friday and Sunday get the press. The crucifixion and resurrection command our attention.  For His reasons, God inserts a Saturday between our Fridays and Sundays.   

Don’t ignore Saturday.  You have them, too.
Silent Saturdays.  The day between the struggle and the solution; the question and the answer; the offered prayer and the answer thereof.
Saturday’s silence torments us.  Is God angry?  Did I disappoint him? God knows Jesus is in the tomb, why doesn’t He do something?  Or, in your case God knows your career is in the tank, your finances are in the pit, your marriage is in a mess. Why doesn’t He act?  What are you supposed to do until He does?
You do what Jesus did.  Lie still.  Stay silent.  Trust God.  Jesus died with this conviction: “You will not abandon me to the grave, nor will you let your Holy One see decay” (Acts 2:27 NIV).
Jesus knew God would not leave him alone in the grave.  You need to know, God will not leave you alone with your struggles.  His silence is not his absence, inactivity is never apathy.  Saturdays have their purpose. They let us feel the full force of God’s strength. Had God raised Jesus fifteen minutes after the death of His son, would we have appreciated the act? Were He to solve your problems the second they appear, would you appreciate His strength?
 “Be patient, brethren, until the coming of the Lord” (James 5:7 NKJV

Sunday, March 18, 2018

Fringes of God

Dog, Sad, Waiting, Floor, Sad Dog, PetComing home for good from Papua New Guinea in 2012  was a heart break for us. We knew it was a permanent change, no more living overseas, our health was dictating our journey at that time. We took a position of Member Care reps covering six southwest states. Decided to live in California where our son who was getting a divorce lived. Long story short we rented a place together. Through all the changes depression had already moved into my mind and I hung onto the God who hung the moon. Job 26
Years ago I ask the Lord for three things, allow us to live close to at least one of our children and grand children, to live in the mountains, in a place with a fireplace, a real fireplace.

One day sitting outside with our son watching his two children play,  I was  enjoying the beautiful southern Californian mountain air. Yep, we are surrounded by mountains.  To top it off we had rented a condo with a wood burning fireplace. And did you get who I was sitting outside with? Son and grandchildren.

Depression is like a dark cloud that stands between earth and heaven. Our God, the one that hung the moon also hung the clouds as it says in Job 26:5-14.  He did not cause the depression but He was going to work in my darkness.    When there is tons of light you don't have to trust as much because light shatters darkness.  Walking in faith is easier in the light.    In the darkness of my  depression I was tripping and falling all over those around me, wounding some of them.   I was easily frustrated for no real reason most of the time, miserable  to be around.  Even I did not want to be around me. 

I don’t understand the pull of gravity but I believe it is there and my heart believed the Lord could and would lift me out.  He showed me the fringes of His ways that day, and that was enough to pull me out of the pit I was in. Since God does not waste anything He did not waste the pit.  I was tired and weary from trying to get out of the pit myself, I felt helpless.   This is where I learned, AGAIN, God loves helpless people. 
 Part of this post is actually a comment I made on someone else post. As I am writing my comment   it popped into my mind that I could use it as my next blog post.

Then I started gathering ways to beat depression.  Exercise, journaling, take vitamins, avoid sugar, get some sunlight even if you have to buy a sunlamp, drink power smoothies, pray, read Bible of course and the one I like the best, laugh.  There is nothing quite so lively than a good belly laugh till the tears roll.  So I am gonna leave you with a couple of jokes that I think are funny.

 What do Alexander the Great and Winnie the Pooh have in common?

Same middle name.

 I couldn’t believe that the highway department called my dad a thief.

But when I got home, all the signs were there.
See, I told you it would take your mind off of whatever was depressing you.

Perspective is everything.