Sunday, November 3, 2019

Dear Prayer Partners,

Every year we as Member Care Reps get together at our Headquarters in Sanford, Florida for a conference.

This year we had a session on, Compassion Fatigue.  Looking forward to reading more on this subject.

The other two days was a workshop on, Risk Assessment and Management. This workshop takes a deeper look at key selected passages in the New Testament on risk and provides a practical framework for risk Assessment and Management, incorporating faith, spiritual and emotions.

Within just this group in the picture there was 263 combined years of experiencing high risk and compassion fatigue at certain times of our living overseas.  As Member Care Reps it’s important to keep current on these subjects because the risk is getting greater and more widespread.  To be able to help someone with compassion fatigue before it drives them to quit is the desire of everyone in this picture. 

Thank you for praying and giving toward our ministry, serving to see the gospel go to the least reached language groups around the world.

Ace & Betty Draper

Ethnos360-Southwestern Regional Member Care

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Sunday, October 27, 2019

He Loves Me

On the 20th of Oct. Ace and I were married 55 years. Of course many have ask, what is the secret for such a long marriage? Through the years we have given the classic answers which are all good. Commitment, communication, forgive a lot, forgive some more after a lot, listen well, affirm each other, love deeply, lots of intimacy, etc. Then there are other classic answers for staying married so long, the children, security, money, to much trouble to get divorce, don't want to disappoint family, believe its the unforgiveable sin, etc. 

So I have been wondering is there a secret to staying married? There has been some shockers through the years ,those I thought had a wonderful marriage only to hear they divorced.
Then, there are those, like us, married at 17, didn't have children till we'd been married 12 years, had years of a troubled marriage. Most would have bet our marriage would not make it. Honestly, we both didn't think it would make it several times. 

So what is the secret? Truthfully, I don't believe there is a secret, God would not keep something that important a secret. What He also did not keep a secret is the fact in this world we will have trouble, not just a few but all of us will have
trials and struggles that could break the best of marriages.

We can do all the right things, forgive, affirm, listen, 
communicate, have security, children, money, etc. Yet the Bible says our hearts are deceitfully wicked. Keeping our hearts pure is the hardest part of living in this fallen world

Here is the most important truth, God did not keep this a secret either, He loves us. The abundant life He promised us is not found in marriage but in the fact He loves us. ,He never disappoint, never leave us, listen well, affirms us, forgives us always. and never divorces us. Ace and I are still married because of that truth and none other. He loves us.

Saturday, October 12, 2019

Take me deep Lord, take me deep

For months my heart has been full of things God is doing in me, and through me, and around me.  During this time I have wondered where was He going with all of it, what did He want me to do with it?  He usually always gives me a chance to use the sweet words He speaks to my heart.  

Trusting Him through the years has taught me to allow Him to build my faith through the waiting for His timing to be used.  

You see, I have a deep Godly desire to help women become wise hearted women, courageous wise hearted women to be exact.  It's not that I think I am so wise mind you, but what little I know, I want to share it, to be used to encouraged, to help someone grow just a little more mature in their walk with God.  

All that said, all that pondering on my hearts desire and then, just like that, He opened two  opportunities to speak to women.

The first was the hardest, because it was before a group of peers, the other Member Care women in our mission, who do what I do, attend the same conference, usually read the same book.  My thinking was, what in the world can I say that resonate in their hearts that they have not already heard.  

How could I encourage other encouragers who like me wanted to be healthy growing women of God.  God reminded me of my prayer for Him to take me deep.

For almost a year, God has been driving me to go deep in His love, to the deepest part of His heart because it is nothing like my heart, my flesh heart. His ways are not like mine, there is mystery to His heart.

How do I tap into that mystery?  Then I remembered it's the Holy Spirits job to reveal the mysteries of God.

For to us God revealed them through the Spirit; for the Spirit searches all things, even the depths of God.

Trusting God's grace means trusting God's love for us rather than our love for God. Therefore our prayers should consist mainly of rousing our awareness of God's love for us rather than trying to rouse God's awareness of our love for him, like the priests of Baal on Mount Carmel (1 Kings 18:26-29).”  
  ―        Peter Kreeft,    

I love the above quote and it went right along with what my two opportunities to speak were about. 

 II Corinthians 5: 14-15 For the love of Christ controls (motivate, compels us, having concluded this, that one died for all, therefore all died, and He died for all, so that they who live might no longer live for themselves, but for Him who died and rose again on their behalf.     

The second time of sharing came in a room full of women of few I knew.  God allowed me to share a journey of finding the power of God's love for me. Not my love for Him, it can never match up to His love for me.  When I dwell on HIs love a divine filling of the spirit happens in my heart.  His love for me has nothing to do with what or when or how I do, in fact I cannot ever do  enough to match His love for me.  His love does motivate me to be used of Him at any cost.  It motivates me to surrender myself, my emotions, my will, my self life.  It tears down any idea of a life of me being in control. 
 I am His and He is mine.  Hallelujah. 

Monday, September 16, 2019

"Don't Give Up On Me"


Our four year old grandson, Reedley, started soccer this year which is about the cutest thing in the world.  He had his first game right before we left on a long trip, in fact we  postpone our time to leave just so we could watch him play.

He is four  but about the size of a two year old, smallest on the team, on all the teams that played that day, but he has a big heart and lots of energy.  His 8 year brother plays and that has made Reedley want to play since he looks up to him. 

The sidelines were crowded with parents and lots of grandparents too, all shouting for their little child playing.  First time out, Reedley gets the ball and with his little short legs and left foot, ( he is a lefty) he focused so hard on kicking the ball in the net he did not realize he was heading for the wrong net.  Excitement is racing through his little body, he kicks and misses.  Then he starts crying because he did not make the goal.  For the rest of the first half of the game, he cried off and on trying hard to stay in the game but just so overcome by disappointment because he did not get a goal.  They had him sit out the second half for a few minutes, he ate a snack & got something to drink.  His older brother and two other friends came over to cheer him up and tell him not to give up.

 Almost every morning he comes into our living room and he and Grandpa watch music video's.  Reedley's favorite one is Andy Grammer singing with a youth choir.  He knows all the words to the song and if you have listened to it you'll  understand why he told me after the game, "He did not give up".

It is amazing what a little encouragement can do for a four year old heart.  Reedley jumped back into the game and even though he did not get a goal he played with all his heart and energy and did not cry anymore.  The coach gave him the "Most Valuable Player" award at the end of the game.  What a lesson to all the adults watching and the other kids that a few tears will come in life but one cannot give up just because we failed a time or two.

                                                        Reedley is number 3

It's really not hard to quit, and it takes no courage, in fact whatever courage you had to begin with despite the fears will be gone too.  So, don't quit, wipe the tears, get back out in the game. Courage will return. 

I love the Bible characters who did not give up and because of that we have a whole bible, from those who wrote it, translated, printed and put it out there for all to read down through the years.  Because of them we can learn who we are, who God is and what sin is and what Jesus did to deliver us from hell. 

"Character consists of what you do on the third and fourth tries.” ―James A. Michener

Sunday, September 1, 2019


How many of you are sick of hearing about, climate change?  Are you worried about it? And what part do you play in stopping it or making it come faster?

As for me, well I leave that kind of thing to God,  the creator of climate.  I know He created this earth as the place to inhabit and I believe we are suppose to take care of it.  But He did tell us not to worship the creation.  I do my part by picking up trash, planting pretty flowers, obey the environmental rules for where we live.  But beyond that, as I said before, I leave the climate changes to God.  Honestly, I have never worried about it once.

Changes close to home is what can put me in a grip of worry and ruin my day.   You would think  moving 32 times now I would have the process mastered.  And some of it I do because I have no problem purging, in fact I hate clutter so to get rid of it is easy for me.  After living in two third world countries where there is not one Walmart or Costco I got use to downsizing and found I function better when I do.

Lets be honest about it, change is hard for everyone.  My husband says men do the move and women feel the move.  Those feelings we deal with when our nest has to be sorted through then packed up and moved, then set up again are real.  Not only does our body feel the physical hardship of the work but our emotions can be a wreak until we get our nest settled again.