Wednesday, March 26, 2014

Wanted: Job Title

My Father is an awesome God.  I wrote this post very early a week ago Sunday morning, but didn't post it.  I wanted to go over it one last time after I got back from church. Please read the post first, then I'll tell you how awesome The LORD is to me. This is what I wrote:

Is there a lost and found for job titles?  I’ve lost mine.

No longer a wife. No longer a mother.  What’s a woman to do?

From my earliest remembrances all I ever wanted to be was a wife and mother. No career aspirations. Except that. That was my career, as well as serving The LORD in whatever capacity.  

So, what’s a woman to do when she finds herself no longer an active mother – as all her children are self-supporting adults living everywhere but here?

A mother is prepared for the day when her children will “fly the nest”.  I did not suffer any kind of empty-nest syndrome, except for the months of August/September when I would ache to shop for school supplies.  Nine years later and I still experience those pangs come school time.

This woman continued to fill her life with ministry work and serving/supporting her husband and his business venture, just as she did for the last 40 years.

So, what’s a woman to do when she finds herself no longer a wife?

A wife is not prepared for her husband to "fly the nest".  

So, what’s a woman to do who now has no husband to serve/support?

What’s this woman to do?  My purpose in life abruptly ended…

Yet, my husband is still my husband. He just no longer wants to be served or supported – not from the wife of his youth anyway…

I’m still his wife, but not. I have a husband, but I’m not a wife. 

It’s no longer my job title.


I don’t know how to not be a wife.


So, what is this woman to do?

Is there life after 40 years of being a wife?  Of course there is. Ask any woman who has forged on after her husband has died. But, in the lost and found department of job titles, I’m definitely in the "lost" section.  

For this you can pray, if you are so inclined…


And now for the postscript:  

I closed my computer and went to church.  I entered into worship and immediately, I heard the Holy Spirit speak one word to me: "Daughter".  I knew in my heart what He was saying.  My job title is now Daughter of the Most High God.  

"Lord, I know I wasn't the best mother, and obviously I wasn't the best wife, but I will do my best to live the rest of my life being the best Daughter I can be", I sobbed back to Him.    

Two days later, I was praying with my prayer partner and I shared about the post and then going to church and what The Holy Spirit said to me.  As I was talking, she gasped.  "Oh my gosh, as you were telling me about the post, I was going to say "Daughter of God".  

We rejoiced in The LORD confirming His Word to me.  We rejoiced in His Lovingkindness, Goodness, and Faithfulness. We were thankful for those who are praying for me during this transition in my life.

For those of you who have been praying for me, I thank you. God is faithful. He meets needs.  He supplies.  He comforts.  He promotes.  He hands us our job titles. 

Because of Him and Unto Him,


  1. Diane,

    Funny (not haha) that you should post about this. I have been going over and over in my mind and heart how important it is to know my identity is not with any one person. My identity is found in Christ. I am His son. I am His child. I am His beloved. You are His daughter. Nothing more important than that. I pray you learn more each day what that means.

  2. Bill, Thanks for commenting on Diane post. She can use the encouragement. God has allow great hurt to come to her but God is using her writing to bring some healing. It's the most foundational truth we need to stand on, who we are in Christ for everyone else will fail us somewhere along the way, even those who are good to us because they are not perfect.

  3. Oh, Bill, thank you for your encouraging words. Truly, I appreciate them. The more and more I've been meditating on this, I realize that is the only "title" I truly want. I look forward to this journey of discovery. Thank you for taking the time to read and comment. God bless you.

    And my precious Betty, thank you for sharing this post. I teach about finding who we are in Christ. And even though I've always considered myself His Daughter, it is a reality now more than ever. I press on, with the help of Christ-centered, Word abounding, Love-filled, people like you. Thank you, my friend. I love you.

  4. I definitely relate to that draw to buy school supplies! ha. I miss that too.

    Praying for Diane to find purpose in being "Daughter." It's a huge position, full of significance and respect. She is valued and worthy regardless of how any man may treat her. She is loved.

  5. I just cried when I read this. God is so good, and Diane is a beautiful Daughter, for sure! Thank you, Betty, for sharing this here!

  6. Lisa, Diane post stirred my heart for I know many women in the same position. For what ever reason their husbands are gone, some by death, some by divorce but each one knows the struggle Diane is facing. Beyond a hug, prayer, more hugs and prayer we as their friend can encouraged them with her words, He never leaves, once a daughter of the King always a daughter of the King. Unlike an earthly King God never changes our status. Thanks you for those words of encouragement to a sister in the Lord.

  7. Anonymous, thank you for visiting my site and leaving your prayers and encouragement for Diane to read. Blessings.

  8. Hi Diane and Betty! Diane, thank you for sharing your heart with us. That can't be an easy thing. And yes, we are all related, so you are my Sister in Christ too.

    I will pray for your strength and healing my sister.

  9. Ceil, thanks for praying for our sister Diane. She is a courageous wise hearted woman. As you can tell by her words God is driving her deeper into whose daughter she is. Which will only bring more wisdom. Blessings.

  10. My heart broke for Diane when I read this over at her site. Prayers are being answered, how else could she find that kind of strength and wisdom when her world is in upheaval?

    Still praying for Diane. Bless you Betty for being a friend and sister.

  11. Floyd, I saw your comment on her site which blessed her heart. You have been one of her commenters for a while so you know the heart of this women. There are a couple of women in my bible study who are dealing with the same thing and I am going to give them a copy of her post. It is when all is pulled out from under us as it was Job that can deepen our knowledge of Him who never leaves us. Thanks brother for praying for Diane.

  12. I thought of my dear mom as I read your words. I also thought that someday, if it's God's plan, I will be in those same shoes, though I pray this will never happen.

    I'm so very glad to hear that God has spoken into your pain. Daughter. Now that is something to sing praise about.
    Daughter of God is a truly wonderful 'job' title.

    Blessings to you and thank you for sharing.

  13. TC, bless you for the encouragement you gave Diane.