Saturday, August 22, 2020

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 Your comments are pure honey to my soul. 😊 This was the reply from the writer of this blog, ( http://totheafterthought.wordpress.com/) to a comment I made on her blog post.

I try hard not to flatter falsely or give out words of affirmation just to gain a positive response.

We have heard how words can kill or build up, make or break us, leave us in a pile drowning from the hurt they caused or take us to the honey pot.

Words are singularly the most powerful force available to humanity. We can choose to use this force constructively with words of encouragement, or destructively using words of despair. Words have energy and power with the ability to help, to heal, to hinder, to hurt, to harm, to humiliate and to humble.”
Yehuda Berg

If we really believe the above quote by Yehda Berg then we must discipline ourselves to speak only honey words. Taking time to think about what we should say and how we say it is takes discipline. Learning discipline is a life long project. I am 73 and I still speak before I think at times. It’s a sign of maturing to think before we speak, so we can respond instead of react.

In the blogging world usually we do not know the person personally or have met them face to face. So their words are the only things we can comment on. I don’t mind that because for me with the Holy Spirit living in me for discernment and my Bible as my guide I usually can know if this writer is someone I want to follow or not. It’s a walk of faith I enjoy because I love to write and read other blog.

If your words make me feel small or disrespected I probably will not visit your site again. There are those who like to dump the contents of their negative mind without regard to those who read their words, I will not re-visit their site.

Gary Chapman in his book, Love as a Way of Life uses the vivid metaphor for words as being either ‘bullets or seeds’. If we use our words as bullets with a feeling of superiority and condemnation, we are not going to be able to restore a relationship to love. If we use our words as seeds with a feeling of supportiveness and sincere good will, we can build a relationship in positive and life-affirming ways.

To get honey from a bee hives takes a lot of work, proper clothing at times, having an understanding of bees first of all. If the bees are not treated right you will not get much of a honey harvest. Interesting read on how to have bee hives and harvest honey. The enemy of our soul does not want us to be honey to others and it’s an ongoing battle sometimes to continue on writing a blog. He tells me, it’s not worth it, who am I to think others would want to read what I write. If I get offended by someone I want to stop it from happening again so the urge to withdraw from reading and commenting on blogs is strong. I love this quote from Margaret Thatcher, “You may have to fight a battle more then once to win it”.

This is what I am doing right now, fighting the battle again. I may land on your site next and drip a little honey on it. You see, I think you are worth my time to stop and read your words. Nothing I like better then to gather honey from others.

18 comments:

  1. You are SO right! I really like the title of Gary Chapman's book, too. Words can really never be taken back.

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  2. I have a sermon coming up in September entitled "What about Words?" I, like you, believe words are so powerful. Positive or negative. I prefer to be positive.

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    1. Unless one wants to be silent for all their life we have to deal with words daily. My extrovert personality is chatty so I get into trouble more with my words then say a someone who is an introvert.
      Will be interested to listen to your sermon.

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  3. Oh, Betty, your words are honey to the soul. My soul. I love what you wrote here: "If we use our words as bullets with a feeling of superiority and condemnation, we are not going to be able to restore a relationship to love. If we use our words as seeds with a feeling of supportiveness and sincere good will, we can build a relationship in positive and life-affirming ways." Gaining mastery over my words has been a life-long, diligent, journey for me. Sometimes, I fail still fail miserably. And I too have a battle raging as to wether or not to blog. Who cares what Diane has to say? I write daily but most never get posted. It would be a determent to us all if you stopped blogging. Please keep sharing your wise-hearted, courageous soul with us all. I love and appreciate you.

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    1. Thanks Diane for the encouragement. I don't get into trouble as much as I use to with my words and when I do it does not destroy me. We all fail at this word business because we are not prefect. I am glad I have kept blogging because I have you and others as friends to gleam from. Look what I would have missed out on.

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  4. Thank you for this timely post today. I do have to deal with this internal battle to speak what I think before I think about what I should speak. My blog is a better place for me because I have to sit and ponder a while and also I truly believe the Lord is guiding me as I write. On Facebook I tend to react and speak before really thinking it through and then it often comes back to bite me. So it is a real struggle, and your words are honey to my soul today, to help me sweeten the thoughts that are within me before they drip out of my mouth and suffocate another person who may need to see Jesus instead of my "self-righteous" thoughts. Thank you.

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    1. Pamela, I love your honest heart felt comment. Every time I mess up and say the wrong thing at the wrong time I promise myself I will work harder at it. But really all that does is weight me down with guilt. My promises are useless to myself, only God's promise that He is still working one me will hold up and He never weights me down. thanks for commenting.

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  5. Wise words from one Wise Hearted woman, Betty! May our words be seasoned with the sweet honey of love and genuine caring for another individual. The tongue can be fickle, as James tells us, so we need to lean on the Lord for our guidance before we speak or write.
    Blessings!

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    1. Blessed advice Martha. Only He can tame our tongue. Blessings

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  6. Betty, I only found your blog a short time ago but it has been so inspiring to me! I am 70 years old, the Lord has been my personal savior since I was very young but I am constantly humbled when I think about how far short of "mature/disciplined I fall. I have so many areas of my life that need work! I try to recognize my spiritual dysfunctions and am determined to persevere until my earthly life is over or He comes again, whichever comes first! As Paul said, fighting the good fight.💖

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    1. Susan, you bless me by commenting on my site. Like you, at 73, the older I get the more I see my lack of discipline in my life. Some of it comes from years of having to be disciplined to take care of children, ministry, just life but age does away with some of the responsibilities. I can sleep in late, I can stay up late, I can watch TV all day, read all day. I can sit here at the computer without being interrupted by the needs of my household. My household has grown up and now it's just my husband and I. Like you I am determined to know Jesus through all this aging business. The fight has changed a little since getting older. Just to get dressed in the morning is a battle I did not have at 23 or even 53 but at 73, I cannot move easily. Yep, still fighting the good fight though. Blessings.

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  7. I love this: "If the bees are not treated right you will not get much of a honey harvest." Spot-on analogy!

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  8. Hello my blog friend. Looking forward to our zoom call. Thanks for reading and commenting.

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  9. Thank you for your wise words.

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    1. Aritha, seems we both had the same mind on our blogpost. Words are exactly what satan used with Eve and then Eve turn around and use word to entice Adam to sin too. Generation after genteration those words are still being used to discourage us. Thanks God, God used His Words to battle the negative words. Blessings.

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  10. Hi Betty,

    You redid your website? It looks nice. I revamped mine a little bit too. :)

    I appreciate your emphasis here on building people up with our words and being mindful of the impact our words can have on others, for evil or good. Thanks for the reminder.

    How are you? How is your family and ministry?

    Jennifer Dougan
    www.jenniferdougan.com

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